I should be grateful.
My parents’ jobs are secure, so we can pay rent.
We can buy food, although grocery shopping is much harder and more expensive.
Nobody in my family has the virus.
I’ve done online classes before so it’s not completely foreign.
I have the Internet.
My mom isn’t abusive to live with.
I have my dog.
My boyfriend and I haven’t given up even though we’re on different continents now due to the virus, and technically we are stronger than ever. We plan to live together next semester.
I put in work every day to remind myself of these things.
But it’s also true that this is really hard.
I worked really hard to be able to have my college experience in Philly.
Staying busy, city life, seeing people I love every day, enjoying campus was my way of feeling alive and happy and coping.
I had just gotten to a really good place not only in my romantic relationship, but also my relationship with school. My grades were good and I was prepping to take on projects that I could learn a lot from.
I was happier than I have ever been.
And now the best I can hope for is that things will be able to shift towards normal by fall (still with precautions as the vaccine won’t be out).
But there is so much uncertainty.
That’s what fries my brain with anxiety. The unknowns. The unknowns for my own life, and for the country.
I definitely spend too much time feeling sorry for myself, but I’m also worried about everybody. The number of people who will die—mostly poor people.
The way the economy will be hit… I can’t even imagine it. All while I have just started my life. It feels unfair. It feels horrifically random and heartless. It’s depressing and exhausting.
And there’s not really any relief. We’re just stuck like this until we’re not.
So, I guess I could better but I could be worse.
Hearing success stories or tips about long distance relationships comforts me. Hearing that social distancing is working comforts me. Reminding myself and others that it’s temporary comforts me. But I really wish this would end.

-Avery Walker
I like the way you wrote out this piece. It feels like a poem or a journal. If I can offer any kind of advice from my non-qualified self, just try to balance feeling upset with a bit of optimism. Everyone should be a little easier on themselves during this time because it is such a large reality check in that none of us have much control if any. It’s good to recognize the things we might otherwise take for granted but I think by you even just writing about all of the ways you are possibly more fortunate than others like you did in this piece, shows a sense of compassion through your awareness and acknowledgment.
Lydia Freeby
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This was a really beautiful piece, Avery. It was extremely real and I love that you were grateful for the things you have while still validating your feelings. I love the format you took this into as well, it really is very expressive. I definitely want to agree with you that it is still hard for people even if they’re not the “worst off”. Quarantine and the school shutting down amongst other things have without a doubt made our lives very different and yes, difficult. I know with your film major things are also incredibly complicated for school. I just want to assure you that when we all come back to school eventually, everyone will be welcoming all their friends back with open arms and delight! I know I’ll be there for you for sure. Miss you and hope you continue to have a positive outlook on things. ❤ Jade
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Hey Avery!
I really relate to feeling like I’m lucky to have a stable living situation but also still feeling pretty bad. Something I’ve always struggled with was feeling as though my problems were too small compared to others. Something I would do to remind myself that everyone has their own things going on is tell myself it might be something that’s small for you but big for them and vice versa. In the end we all live different lives and experience different things so it makes complete sense that we all have different problems in our lives.
I also loved reading about your journey this school year. Hearing that things were getting really good made me so happy for you because you deserve it. I am also happy to see you in what seems to be a really strong and positive relationship.
Stay safe and healthy!
-Taylor
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